Late to your own Party

If you have been around me in ANYTHING that can possibly become a competition you’ve probably noticed I am extremely competitive, haha! Like super competitive. I have done a lot of growing in this to become a better loser, lol. Ian loves to tell the story of his first time for dinner with my family and game night. I can easily say he saw my true colors! A story for another day…

I read this quote the other day and it was exactly what I needed to remind myself on the days I feel like I’m “late” to my own party. Went back to find it so I could share it with you. This is something I am working through right now.

Someone graduated at 21, but waited 6 years to get a good job. Someone had no education, but was a millionaire at 21. Someone got married at 30 and found everlasting love. You’re not late. You’re not early. You’re right on time.

I talked to one of my dearest friends over the phone the other day and I realized something I was struggling with.

I told her I noticed I was envious of other ladies and or moms around me that are where I want to be. Or so it seems on the outside. I told her I knew this wasn’t healthy but I wasn’t sure where this was stemming from, or even how to fix it.

They aren’t kidding when they say comparison is the thief of all joy.

All the chaos feels like musical chairs. Life is happening and the music is playing. Then the music starts to slow down and people get ready to take a seat. Other people around me are ‘arriving‘ before me. It feels like there are only so many chairs at the table of ‘success‘ and if I don’t get there fast enough, I’ll lose my spot. The competitive part of me feels like I have to hustle and come up with what I am doing wrong so I don’t lose my seat. I start looking around and you guessed it… comparing.

Let’s pause for a second and recognize that it’s ok to be competitive, but this is just not the place. I have to remind myself to look in my OWN lane and just be better than I was yesterday.

If you feel like this too, let me share with you some wisdom I’ve heard over the years, and the advice my sweet friend graced me with.

There is a seat for you at the table.

Whatever your table looks like, whoever is sitting there now that inspires you, and will arrive before or after you, won’t take your spot.

There is a seat with your name on it and it will wait for you.

Whatever your success, dreams, and goals look like, there is enough for you too.

When someone else starts to grow a successful business it’s easy to think they’ll take some of your potential success if you don’t move fast enough.

One of your girlfriends shares with you this new guy that just might be the one. Well great, but where is my guy?

That dream house that had the perfect kitchen just went under contract, what if there won’t be another one!?

The girl you follow on Insta graduates a year early and just landed her dream job. Just so happens that’s where you were going to apply to the exact same place once you graduate, what if there isn’t another position for you?

Does it feel like you’re behind? Or better yet like you’re late, to your own party?! Me too, sister.

How you’re feeling is normal. I think most of us, if not everyone feels like this more than you might think. My sweet friend reminded me of this the other day and gosh it was exactly what I needed to hear.

Heres the thing…

The feeling is normal, but what you tell yourself every day and wallowing isn’t getting you ANY closer to your table with that attitude (remember, I am literally writing this to myself LOL). I say this in the most direct way possible to hopefully help snap you out of a ‘funk’ you might be in. I hope this gets you back on track, and energized to put your blinders on and worry about YOU. #StayInYourLane

What can you do today (or tomorrow if you’re reading past 9 pm) that will help you get closer to your goals than yesterday? Think practical, like something you will actually do. You literally only have control over you. So, stop comparing and looking around at everyone else’s success and start DOING something to make yourself better.

As Fallon Taylor says… “when you achieve one of your goals it only makes you more confidant to achieve another one. This is why you see overachievers so often doing thing after thing after thing on their list of goals.” If you want some encouragement, follow her on Insta! She’s @fallontaylor2. Full of wisdom and tough talks every morning to encourage you!

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Have a wonderful weekend!

xo- HH